15 Things Guys Do That Turn Women Off.
Guys, have you ever been on a date and thought it was going well but the girl didn't lean in to meet you for a kiss or respond to any of your messages after that? Maybe it wasn't you, maybe it really was her. Maybe she just got out of a bad breakup and thought she was ready to start dating, only to find out later that she wasn't quite over it. Maybe she just wanted to get a free dinner. These are all possibilities. But in many cases, she probably just wasn't that into you (yes, it's our turn to say that).
Despite what people say, few women will actually turn a man down for his looks, not being handsome or tall or fit enough, for example. The real reason women turn down men is because they don't feel connected to them. Some connections are instant while others can be developed over time, and if the first doesn't happen, women are usually pretty good about determining whether or not the latter can.
You can usually tell if you're connecting with another person. The attraction is obvious. You're carrying on a conversation. There's chemistry. But sometimes, it might not be that simple for her. She'll look for different things to figure out whether or not you're truly compatible.
Continue reading to find some of the biggest turnoffs for women. You'll notice that they're not that different from the biggest turnoffs for men.
#1. So, who should pay the bill? It really depends.
Some men prefer to pay on the first date. Others go dutch or allow the girl to pay. As a general rule of thumb, the person who did the inviting should also pay the bill.
If you're paying and worried about spending too much, do your research and find a place where even if she orders the most expensive item on the menu, she won't be burning a hole in your pocket.
#2. Don't smother her with attention. Everyone needs a little breathing room.
We get it. You adore her and you probably have good reason to. You might want to shower her with gifts, kisses, and check up on her with messages and phone calls but find a balance. It's important to reassure your partner but women need their space. With that said, don't go as far as withholding your love. It isn't a game.
#3. There will be some girls who like to take charge but no one likes to take the reigns all the time.
You don't have to change who you are but just because you're a quiet or indecisive person doesn't make you incapable of making plans. Plan ahead if time is what you need. Show that you're an active member in the relationship.
Pride & Prejudice
#4. Unless you have an emergency, don't cancel on her.
Don't take it for granted when she sets aside some time for you. Last minute cancellations without good reason will be viewed as a red flag. If you have to cancel because your grandma is in the hospital, she'll understand and if she doesn't, her loss.
#5. She didn't sign up for a threesome so put that phone away.
Do not take your phone out at the dinner table. If you have a job where you're always on call, leave it in your pocket and set it on vibrate. Say "Excuse me" if you have to take a call.
If you're checking your phone or constantly taking photos, you aren't making that connection that you could be making. If you're at a restaurant, you might also be ruining the ambience for other guests.
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