Her ‘Imperfect’ Bikini Photo Sent A Hard-Hitting Message About Self Love.
Haddas Ancliffe knows all too well how much a woman’s body changes after childbirth. The Australian blogger is proudly posting photos of her stretch marks, saggy tummy, and uneven breasts on Instagram. The 21-year-old does not believe you need to have a model’s figure to look attractive.
“You don't stop looking good in a bikini once you have kids, you just look like a different kind of good,” explains Ancliffe. The young mom has also shared a photo of herself dressed up in a green gown, with perfect hair and makeup, for her sister’s wedding; all the while breastfeeding her son Jonah in public. Ancliffe seems to be breaking the perception of beauty one Instagram photo at a time.
Ancliffe is inspiring other moms to embrace their body and not get so worried about getting their figure back.
#mombod ✊🏾 Images of young women in bikinis flood our Instagram feeds daily. Sexual, near naked, provocative pictures that get a lot of attention and make other women who don't look the same feel inadequate. Well here's a different kind of provocative image for your feed. An image that says, my body is stretched, sagging and uneven but I'm still attractive. You don't stop looking good in a bikini once you have kids, you just look like a different kind of good. When your body no longer looks like the Instagram bikini model and you have a mom bod, be proud! Put on your bikini and belly chain, do your best Kylie Jenner in the pool pose and be proud that your child thinks you're the most beautiful person in the world... That's all that matters anyway. #motherhood
The Gold Coast, Queensland resident began posting photos of her "flaws" after a sales woman gave her some unsolicited advice how to tighten her tummy.
Here's an image that might make people uncomfortable! When I shopped for this particular bikini one of the sales ladies told me that I needed to start drinking soy milk and recommended some cream to tighten the skin on my tummy. Now I know she was just being kind and thought she was being helpful but the whole idea that someone offering me ways to change myself could be a kind gesture, really annoys me. First of all - I don't have a problem with my saggy tummy. Second of all - no body else should have a problem with my saggy tummy 🆗 Today I went to the beach with a mommy friend of mine and we talked about our stretch marks and imbalanced breasts and all the rest of that body changing goodness, and she mentioned to me that one day we had spent together I had worn a crop top and so she felt confident to start wearing them (it's also waaaay easier to breastfeed in them). That to me was an amazing thing! So starting now, I'm going to post lots of saggy, stretchy tummy pictures, in hopes that in some way it would make it easier for others to feel comfortable in their skin ✌🏾️
Hello body, I haven't appreciated you much lately but I do love you, I am proud of you too. One day if we have another child, you're going to change again but don't worry, you'll still be beautiful! Just like every other body, you are full of wonder and worthy of love. Thanks for keeping me alive after all I've put you through, I promise I'll take care of you and feed you lots of good food to show you my gratitude. With love, your tenant ❤️
The mom admits she also has days where she feels down about the changes in her body. Nonetheless, she reminds herself and other moms how, "your child thinks you're the most beautiful person in the world."
I have bad days you know... Days where I look at myself and think, I'll never look like girls on Instagram in their calvins with amazing figures and smooth flat tummies. But I don't have days anymore where I want to tear off my skin or cry at my reflection. Gone are the days where I'd refuse to go out if I thought I looked bad or get mad at anyone who would compliment me. NOW most of my days I look at myself and I'm happy. My body isn't where I'd like it to be health/strength wise, my skin sees pimples daily and my hair is mostly in a frizzy bun but I'm beautiful none the less! I'm one of God's creations which in itself means I am beautiful, glorious even. I want to be real with everyone that's why I'm saying this, so you know I don't just have 100% confidence and no flaws. I am flawed, I'm not always confident but I am living and breathing and full of love so I have no reason to be down on myself. Same goes for all of you, whether you're a mommy or not, if you're alive you are nothing short of beautiful. #mycalvins P.S these bras are so good for breastfeeding 🙌🏾
Ancliffe shares how she has struggled with body dysmorphia, bulimia, and anorexia. She is on a mission to help other moms feel good about themselves and even encourages people to start taking selfies of themselves. "Not just shirtless, flexing selfies but pictures of your gorgeous faces and fresh outfits," says Ancliffe.