Amanda

By Amanda

LifeBuzz Staff

Her Boyfriend Called Her Ugly… But She Ended Up With The Last Word.

Being a teenage girl has never been easy -- no matter what generation you came up in, young women face a similar set of pressures, judgments, and issues that could take years to work out. That being said, it feels like the current generation of teenage girls has it especially tough: Their entire lives are documented on social media, which means that they're constantly forced to compare themselves to others. Questions of positive self-image and worth inevitably arise, and those can be extraordinarily difficult to work through.

This young woman had an especially hard time, because she also had a particularly toxic boyfriend. After a long period of time listening to his judgments and criticisms, he left her anyways -- causing her to reevaluate herself and the reasons he was so cruel to her. What she came up with is a powerful lesson in confidence and putting yourself first, and luckily, she shared her message with the world for other teenage girls to consider.

This is Brittany Shane.

She spent a period of time with a verbally abusive boyfriend, one that constantly mocked her and questioned her choices. Eventually, he left her for a "prettier" girl.

This is Brittany Shane.

Brittaney Lynn Shane

That's when this Alabama teen penned a powerful letter to him and posted it on social media.

"You always told me I didn’t look good with long hair and that you preferred girls with short hair. So I kept my hair cut above my shoulders at all times. You laughed at me and told me I looked ridiculous when I dyed my hair red when we were together. So a week later I dyed it back blonde."

That's when this Alabama teen penned a powerful letter to him and posted it on social media.

Brittaney Lynn Shane

And it wasn't just her hair that he criticized -- it was basically everything else, too.

"You would always point out if I was wearing too much makeup, so I just stopped wearing it. You told me tattoos and piercings were tacky and ugly. And would try to take out my belly button ring every time you saw it. So I took out my piercings and didn’t get any more tattoos."

And it wasn't just her hair that he criticized -- it was basically everything else, too.

Brittaney Lynn Shane

Her words have really struck a nerve with a lot of people who have been through the same thing.

"You pointed out my stretch marks every chance you got. So I did my best to keep them hidden. You pointed out every time I looked like I had gained weight. So I started eating less every day. You pointed out every single flaw I had. So I lost every bit of confidence I had."

She continued, explaining why in the end, one of it was worth it.

"I did everything I could to be what you wanted. I did everything you told me to do. It still wasn’t good enough. You left me for a younger prettier girl. Someone you could mold and shape into what you wanted. Like you tried to do with me. And up until a few months ago I blamed myself for everything that happened. You blamed me too."

Her words have really struck a nerve with a lot of people who have been through the same thing.

Brittaney Lynn Shane

Despite all of it, she's remained strong and realized some valuable lessons about life and the people who claim to have your back.

"You weren’t out of my league. I was out of yours. I wasn’t the one who wasn’t good enough for you. You were the one who wasn’t good enough for me. You couldn’t accept me for who I was. When I took you the way you were. So now here I am a few months later. My hair is past my shoulders. My hair is bright red. I’ve got a new tattoo. New piercings. Started wearing makeup again. I eat whatever I want whenever I want and weigh 135 pounds."

Despite all of it, she's remained strong and realized some valuable lessons about life and the people who claim to have your back.

Brittaney Lynn Shane

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