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A lot of parents would agree that becoming a parent was the most rewarding thing that they have ever done. And those same parents will say that they're guilty of losing their cool a time or two. It's not always easy to keep negative emotions in check. This is why it's important to remain mindful about the emotions that you're feeling as often as possible.
This is where reminding yourself that it's you, and not your child, that needs to take a step back.
Take A "Time Out"
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As a parent, there are days when you just want to stand in the middle of your kitchen and scream at the top of your lungs. Those days when nobody seems to be hearing anything that you're saying. The days when you've burned dinner because your son put toothpaste all over the baby. And the days when you might need a glass of wine if one more person says that they can't find something that's sitting right in front of them.
It's important to take a step back on days like these. Remind yourself that it's you that needs a "time-out" and not your child. Take a few minutes to recognize what's causing your anger and frustration. Once you get to the root of the issues, they're easier to handle. Then when you're ready, you can return to your little ones with a smile on your face.
Speaking of smiling...
Fake It 'Til You Make It
The age-old adage of faking it until you make it has a bit of wisdom in it. While you shouldn't consistently fake your emotions, there are times when faking a smile can be helpful. Even if smiling is the only thing keeping you from losing your temper, then put that smile on your face until it wants to be there. Kids can sense everything that you're feeling, so that smile might just keep them from realizing that something is a bit off with your mood.
Smiling in itself can also help improve your mood! There is science-based evidence that proves that smiling can help improve your blood pressure, decrease your stress, and not to mention, smiling is contagious! Once you start smiling, your little one will start smiling, too! It's a wonderful ripple effect that can turn your whole day around.
Just like this next helpful tip!
Music Is Magic
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Do you have a special song that you listen to when you're feeling upset or anxious? You know, a song that can bring you up no matter how bad of a day you're having? If so, then put it to use. If you feel like your day is getting away from you and everything feels like it's out of your control, then take a dance break. Put on that song and turn the volume up as loud as you can (just be mindful of the sleeping toddler in the next room). And that's when you dance it out. Sing out loud to the top of your lungs, and let every negative feeling in your body flow out of you while you're doing it.
If that doesn't help, then put that smile back on your face and refer to the next tip!
Walk It Out
If you're having an exceptionally rough day and you're just one smart comment from saying something rude to your teenager, then put that smile on your face and head to the front door. Take some time for yourself and go for a nice walk. Spending time by yourself, away from the chaos in the house, is a great way to calm down. Give yourself some quality time to think about what's going on in your life at the moment. Figure out why you're feeling the way that you're feeling and think about what's causing you to feel that way. Once you get to the bottom of what's causing your frustration and anger, then you can brainstorm ways to make the situation better.
If it's not something that you can deal with during the duration of your walk, then you can relax knowing that you just got some time outside. Spending time outside, surrounded by nature, can help ease anxiety and put your mind back in the right place.
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