Leilani

By Leilani

LifeBuzz Staff

He Wrote His OWN Obituary… I Lost It When I Read The Last Three Words.

Ong Peck Lye of Singapore died of pneumonia at the age of 82 on June 8, 2016. He was a wealthy rubber tire businessman and left behind his wife, Han Boon Keng, and three sons, including the "samseng (Malay for gangster)" son, who penned a first-person poem for his obituary.

The "samseng" son, Ong Tiong Yeow, is also a businessman and the middle child. According to an interview with The Straits Times, he wrote over 500 poems in his youth, but none have been published. The obituary, however, was published in the same paper, and has since gone viral after a reader shared it on Facebook.

Many readers were moved by the honesty of the poem, which was based on Mr. Ong's final conversations with his late father. From an outsider's perspective, his father was a great, self-made man. Despite growing up in poverty, without his own father around, he successfully co-founded the Stamford Tyres business empire.

And still, just as any other person, he had his complexities. His obituary read: "For all the adventure and flamboyance that I knew/ My last days were dreary and weary/ For all the charity that I gave/ My true friends were few/ My siblings all gone before me."

His relationship with his sons were also complicated. The eldest had converted to Christianity and married into a Eurasian family while the youngest came out as gay. Both left Singapore, a place known for its conservatism, to lead more open lives.

In light of recent, tragic events, netizens have expressed gratefulness for the obituary due to its mention of the youngest son and his partner, listed as "son-in-law."

Mr. Ong Tiong Yeow with mother Madam Han Boon Keng, and daughter Andromeda Wang.

This photo depicts the "samseng" son, who dubbed himself this in the obituary he had written for his father because of his rebellious youth. At 23, he was thrown out of the house for disagreeing with the way his father treated his mother.

Mr. Ong Tiong Yeow with mother Madam Han Boon Keng, and daughter Andromeda Wang.

TIFFANY GOH FOR THE STRAITS TIMES

Love is about caring for and understanding one another despite their flaws.

His father eventually asked him to move back in, because he had missed him. Together with his mother, Mr. Ong nursed the aging man, who suffered from dementia for seven years.

Love is about caring for and understanding one another despite their flaws.

TIFFANY GOH FOR THE STRAITS TIMES

Mr. Ong wanted to share lessons from his father's life.

"We have only one chance in life to be a husband and a father," Mr. Ong told The Straight Times. "We learn what we can from our parents, but we only have one chance to get it right ourselves."

Mr. Ong wanted to share lessons from his father's life.

TIFFANY GOH FOR THE STRAITS TIMES

Despite the way he treated her, Madam Han Boon Keng's love for her late husband was steadfast.

"We had good times and bad times," she told the interviewer in Mandarin. "He was a generous man. I loved him and he loved me."

Despite the way he treated her, Madam Han Boon Keng's love for her late husband was steadfast.

TIFFANY GOH FOR THE STRAITS TIMES

Read the first-person poem obituary in its entirety below.

Read the first-person poem obituary in its entirety below.

Source: The Straits Times

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