15 Things To Start Doing In Your Relationships… #6 Is Essential.
Feel like your relationship isn't as strong as it once was? Don't give up hope just yet. There are a number of things that you and your partner can do to continue building in the right direction.
One big mistake that many people make is they try to solve the problems quickly and on their own. It takes time and thoughtful reflection to identify the sore spots and work on them. They can be a lot deeper or a lot more simple than you think. It also takes communication with your partner, not at them or with your friends, which we'll delve more into later in this post.
Why is it important to prioritize relationships? Because studies show that your relationship can strongly affect your personal happiness and vice versa.
Scientists learned that happy couples have about 5 positive interactions for every negative one, and the secret behind this isn't magic, it's effort.
Below you'll find 15 things that happy couples do to keep their relationship strong. These aren't rules, merely suggestions for you as you take time to think about your own relationship.
#1. Identify the problem so that you can attack it as a team.
A common problem that couples deal with is never talking about what problems you have at all. It doesn't matter what the problem is. Even if it's silly, get it out of your system. If you leave it in your head, you might build a sense of resentment without really knowing it. And when you bring up a problem, do not by any means bring it up in an accusatory manner. Make it a conversation, not an attack.
#2. Work on improving yourself. This will allow time for each of you to have personal space.
You can't be happy in a relationship unless you're happy with yourself. And there's nothing wrong with you if you're not quite there. The important thing is that you try.
The truth is that you're probably always going to be critical about where you are in life, but if you're constantly working on passions or projects that you love, you're gold. Plus it's attractive to see your partner working towards something.
Support your partner as they do the same. Together, you can work towards your ideal selves. This drive isn't only beneficial to you but to your relationship as well.
Honey and Clover
#3. Plan activities that you can enjoy together.
It's so easy to drift apart, especially when you have separate careers and social circles. Some partners work together and have mutual friends, but not all do. While it is perfectly healthy to maintain your independence, make sure to plan activities that you can enjoy together. It can be anything from taking dance classes to playing Pokémon Go. I had a former boss that used to give me relationship advice. She's happily married and always told me to "have fun, otherwise whats the point?"
#4. Set aside some real alone time with them. This shows that you prioritize the relationship.
I had a friend once advise me to schedule alone time with my partner, including the intimate moments. It seemed mechanic to do it this way, like we were just another appointment. But the reality is, we had such busy schedules that it would've otherwise gone, well, undone. This can help, especially if you're someone with an erratic schedule. Plus it'll give you both something to look forward to.
Deep Blue Sea
#5. Tell them what you admire about them. Be as specific as possible.
Compliment them on their appearances, efforts, and accomplishments. Let your partner know exactly what you like about them, just as they are. No matter how long you've been together, it's important to show that you notice these things.
Ask more questions. Congratulate them or cheer them on. Show enthusiasm. This isn't praising or over indulging, it's about building a positive relationship.
Far From the Madding Crowd
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